I was so excited when I saw this on someone's userinfo from another group I'm in (weddingplans
My name is Carole and I am 25 years old, I'm black and I live in Cleveland Ohio. My fiance is 27 and is half Mexican and half Polish. We've been together for two and a half years, engaged for six months and plan to get married March 10th 2007.
So far things have been wonderful when it comes to our families. I have always dated white and/ or hispanic guys so my parents weren't tooo shocked when we said we were getting married. Actually, I went to Undergrad with Ben's ( Fiance') sister and knew his whole family for four years before I met him... He was in the Marines and then in school as well. So it has been smooth sailing with the immediate family for the most part. Our extended families have been a little leery about us. My father's family is from Alabama and are very color struck and believe in staying with your own. No one had ever really said anything when I had other long term relationships and even though what they know about Ben is all wonderful, some still have issues. My grandma has made comments that are just pure ignorant- but is excited that our babies will have "good hair" since I already do. I knwo she is an old lady and grew up in that environment but it still hurts. My half brother is pissed that I am marrying someone who isn't black- and to add insult to injury, made a comment that he doesn't even look Mexican anyways!
But besides all of that, I don't care because I love him and he loves me. Of course it is going to be more difficult for us than with other traditional couples but we're ready. Almost all of my friends have dated interracially and two have married outside of their ethnicity/ race. Ben's friends on the other hand have not and we are like a freak show to them, sad to say.
I am so happy to have found a community that I can come to and share joys and concerns about our upcoming nuptuals and our lives together as newlyweds.
By the way, here's pictures of us in Vegas in 2003- yeah I'm a loser, I need to get more updated pics!( Here we are!Collapse )