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Handling racist father in law...
 mixed_marriage - (opaloctober)
05:55pm 19/06/2010
C:\\World\Crap\Kristina.exe posting in MultiCultural Unions!
Has anyone else had to go through this? I am multiracial, my fiance is white. My fiance and I have been toghether 6 years this august. When we first got toghether, my family was great about us being toghether, and so was his mom's side of the family. Now, even before his father and his grama on his dad's side met me, they had a conversation on my fiance's porch and told him that they would disown him, etc, and continued to degrade and talk about me like I couldn't hear when I was sitting on his couch listening to everything that was being said. Since then, his grama has become nicer and nicer to me, and finally told my fiance that as long as he was happy with me that was all that mattered, and that I was a nice girl. I am welcome in her home, get christmas gifts from them every year, and they (his grandparents) treat me like a human.
His father told him that "it would be okay if you were just screwing her but if you bring her home we're gonna have issues"...that was 5 1/2 years ago. We had a daughter toghether who passed away before she was born, and after she was born, he said, "well don't bring any of your mongrel children home to me..."...i've since had two more losses and we're trying to get pregnant again. I wonder what he'll say next. It's almost become a game to me.
The other day, I went to his house with my fiance while he ran some errands, and after I went into his house to use the restroom (i was sitting in the car for over 2 hours until then, I just couldn't hold it anymore; I knew I wasn't allowed in) in front of company, he told Mark that I was no longer allowed on his property OR in his house, even if I did just sit in the car...nice. Mark can pick through my mother's Christmas ham in her oven on Christmas Eve (she thought it was funny and made a joke out of it when she caught him stealing pieces of her ham and we all still laugh at it), but I can't use his dad's restroom on a regular day. I have bent over backwards and been as nice, and respectful as I could to this man and he insists on being as evil as he can to me, and my children. I don't understand how someone can be so...hateful. I'm out of options and i'm almost done being nice to this man. I've decided that he isn't invited to my wedding either. My fiance and I are getting married this August, and our wedding will be on our anniversary NEXT year, and I really, really, don't even want him to come- IF he decides he will come. Last time Mark brought it up, he said no. Wasn't comming to his only son's-only CHILD's wedding. Well, no sweat off my back, he may just make the entire event miserable anyway. I really try to not stoop to his level and fight hate with hate, but after all these years being treated lower than dirt by this man, it's hard. I really hope karma comes back to bite him in the ass.
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What do your wedding sets look like? How much were they?
 mixed_marriage - (opaloctober)
06:50pm 23/01/2010
C:\\World\Crap\Kristina.exe posting in MultiCultural Unions!
I'm just curious, I want to see all of the variations and styles you guys picked out, I've seen some beautiful ones here, and i've heard a lot of people talk about getting theirs from Etsy. I took a look there and found lots of pretty ones, so I want to see what you picked out. I got my wedding set from WalMart jewelery, and it cost me a little over $240. It's two tone white and yellow gold. The only thing is, i've gained weight, and when I bought it, it fit (it's a size 6 1/2) and the other day when I took it to get a quote at the jewelery repair place to get it sized, my ring finger is a size 7- 7 1/2 now. They're charging me about $194 to size both my engagement ring and wedding band, I thought that was a lot, considering how much I paid for it. There's another jeweler near that same place that I think i'll take it to for a quote before I decide where i'm going to take it to be sized.

Here's a pic:

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Potluck wedding?
 mixed_marriage - (opaloctober)
09:01pm 28/08/2009
C:\\World\Crap\Kristina.exe posting in MultiCultural Unions!
For those of you who had (or are having) a casual outdoor (doesn't HAVE to be outdoors, but our ceremony is, our reception is going to be in my hometowns' community center) potluck wedding, how did you word the fact that your wedding was potluck on your wedding invites? We're having a potluck wedding and most likely be having the main course (the meats, barbecue chicken, sausage, etc) catered and ask guests to bring all of the sides/salads because people in my family LOVE to cook, and they just LOOK for an excuse to cook and eat and party lol (We're a very close family)...so, what did you say? How did you word it?
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 mixed_marriage - (opaloctober)
10:39pm 23/08/2009
C:\\World\Crap\Kristina.exe posting in MultiCultural Unions!
I was browsing around for cake toppers, when I ran across this:


It's perfect! Unfortunately, I can't find a price or place that sells it!! I've Googled for interracial cake toppers, but all I can find is "white woman, black guy" cake toppers, since it's rare to have it the other way around (or so my fiance and I have noticed...) But now I have to have it! tell me, would it look good on our cake (minus the two gum lillies at the top, but keeping all of the others)?

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Le Sigh
 mixed_marriage - (galyndean)
02:51pm 25/01/2006
V posting in MultiCultural Unions!
Okay, so my FMIL believes that I am not only going to make my FH into an atheist, but I am also going to turn him white.

Obviously, I have some sort of skin pigment changer tucked in my pocket. Oh, and don't forget that I preach atheism because obviously, atheists are always trying to convert people. *sighs*

Okay, I feel better now.

mood: aggravatedaggravated
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 mixed_marriage - (xxmarkiexx)
01:23pm 25/11/2005
Well looks like Ill be leaving this community. My... I dont know what to call her now(creator of this community) has decided she doesnt want to get married. Even though this hurts... beyond explaination. I must depart.
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 mixed_marriage - (pink_plays_dead)
06:55pm 24/11/2005
Kris posting in MultiCultural Unions!
Hola all, long time no see! A lot has changed for me since i've visited this community, for instance, i'm not getting married anymore,...
I'm debating whether or not to remain a member, and whether or not to hand over membership...
btw, this is pinkmush
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 mixed_marriage - (happypinkegg)
02:49am 12/09/2005
Hi I am new. I am getting married next summer.

Basically I am American with Northern European (Swedish, English, Northern Irish, German etc) blood. My FH is very Mexican. I am Protestant, and he is (surprise!) Catholic, so we are getting married in his church- although I know very little about Catholicism. We have also started taking the pre-marital classes through his church.

Anyways, it is nice to have found this community.

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 mixed_marriage - (urbunnie)
10:32pm 11/09/2005
urbunnie posting in MultiCultural Unions!
I'm freaking out tonight because I found out that my FMIL wants to have the Korean ceremony immediately following our Jewish ceremony. I know, I know. We are multi-cultural and this should be fine with me. I really do want a Korean ceremony because mixing our cultures rocks, but I'm totally freaking out about not being able to wear my wedding dress for the reception and messing up my hair and makeup. You see, for the Korean wedding, I have to wear traditional Korean garb and they paint red dots on my cheeks. I talked to my FH about switching the ceremony to the night before, during the rehearsal dinner, but we're both afraid this would be insulting, plus there probably wouldn't be a photographer then. My FMIL doesn't speak very good English, so communicating with her about this won't be that easy. Even my FH has trouble talking to her. As it is, we've been engaged 2 months (dating a year and a half) and his parents haven't spoken to me yet about anything.

And overall, yeah, I'm selfish. I want to look like a Jewish bride for most of my wedding day and I don't want to have spent all that money on my dress and alterations and hair and makeup only to have people see it for, oh, 20 minutes.

But, does anyone have any suggestions about ways to deal with this? Or how are other multi-cultural brides handling this situation? I should add that she lives 6 hours from me, so a visit for explanations probably won't happen for a while.

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New one!!!
 mixed_marriage - (rainydai)
12:44pm 25/08/2005
A.N.D. posting in MultiCultural Unions!
Hello everyone. I came across this community and thought it was a great idea. Ok let me jump to it! I am Irish, Black, Blackfoot Indian, Cherokee Indian, Russian, Austrian, French, Italian, and probably more stuff somewhere in there but that's the main mix.
My husband is German and Scottish. We have known each other since I was 12 and he was 15. We were really in love at first sight! We were married December 21, 2000. We have 3 kids, Chloe who is 3 yrs., Aiden who is 16 mos., and Faye Ella who is not even two weeks old (born August 14, 2005.) Here are a few pictures of our little family.
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